Disclaimer: This post contains my firsthand account of documented harassment and stalking behavior. The events described are supported by evidence, including messages and timestamps. Any opinions expressed are grounded in personal experience and the impact this behavior has had on my safety and well-being.
If you haven't read the first few parts, I recommend you do so before continuing. Here they are, in order:
Part One
Part 1A (be sure to read this before advancing to the next part)
Part Two
Part Three
I've been dealing with a pretty relentless flare-up and bowel obstruction for most of July. Physically, I've been struggling since the surgery (May 2nd, 2025—we'll get to this part of the timeline soon), but that's not exactly shocking considering all of the stress I've been under. Between EDS, dysautonomia, the long history of abdominal surgeries, and now going through surgical menopause—my body doesn't heal like it should. Things that would be minor setbacks for someone else tend to turn into ongoing cycles for me. It all compounds. And just when I think it's starting to let up, I backslide.
For better and mostly for worse, my body reflects the turmoil and triumphs happening in my life. Dysmotility and hypermobility, mirroring exactly how things unfold for me. Long periods of stillness where everything feels stalled—like I'm frozen in time, unseen, barely moving—and then suddenly, everything accelerates. BAM. The volume surges, the pace spirals, it fractures and fractals—and suddenly I'm thrust into the spotlight, into hyperdimensional (hypermobile) overdrive. It's never gradual. It's either nothing or everything, ALL. AT. ONCE.
Freeze (clogged plumbing) then flood (rapid thaw, the water works).
That alarm was going off a while (it has since stopped). My iPad started talking out of nowhere earlier, and it scared the crap out of me. I only caught the tail end of it right after it stopped jabbering. Just now, as I was taking a shower, the drain acted like it was plugged...
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) June 10, 2025 at 6:37 PM
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So, I had to get out mid-shower and finish washing my hair in the sink. I shut the bathroom door so that Daisy wouldn't try to drink the water in the shower. I left my phone in there. As I am washing my hair in the kitchen sink, I hear my phone ringing in the bathroom. This annoys me, but I...
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) June 10, 2025 at 6:37 PM
...continue washing my hair. The phone stops ringing, and then I hear what sounds like SOMEONE IN MY BATHROOM turn on the bathroom faucet. The water I am rinsing my hair with turns scalding for a few seconds, and then I hear the knob (the wall behind the kitchen sink separates the kitchen & the...)
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) June 10, 2025 at 6:37 PM
(...bathroom, so you can hear what's happening in the bathroom if you are at the kitchen sink) turn off, and the water immediately adjusts to a reasonable temperature. I finish up, go into the bathroom and check my phone. No missed calls. (I have a very specific ringtone, so I know it was ringing.)
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) June 10, 2025 at 6:37 PM
I then look to the shower stall because I am prepared to scoop the water out with a cup (don't want a swamp bubbling overnight since maintenance won't be able to get to it until tomorrow), and all of the water has drained back out. 😤 Wtf 👻
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) June 10, 2025 at 6:37 PM
A month later, and four days after I make my first Daisy Chain post here on the blog...
Being in my body has been so difficult the last couple of days. Just excruciating. If I go outside, I feel like I am going to have a seizure or pass out. Everything is inflamed. I am so uncomfortable that I would rather just sleep. But I am forcing myself to stay awake a little while longer.
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) July 14, 2025 at 6:05 PM
I feel like I would feel better if I had the seizure. I've been feeling this way for a while. I just need for there to be a discharge. I need to cry, wail, and emotionally explode—move it through. But all I've felt lately is annoyance and agitation. And it makes it worse. My kitchen and bathroom...
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) July 14, 2025 at 6:12 PM
... plumbing got clogged over the weekend. I couldn't drain either sink. A few weeks ago, the same happened with my shower. Maintenance had to come in and fix it (both times). They did. Hopefully, things start flowing again. 🪞
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) July 14, 2025 at 6:12 PM
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) July 14, 2025 at 7:24 PM
Update: 7/25/2025
The Shit Show (PURGE)
I am partially obstructed and tried to have a minor medical procedure this morning that did not go well due to abdominal and pelvic cramping. They're just going to coordinate it so that I have it done when I have surgery on the 2nd. Extra TLC for my body this weekend. Water water water!
— Herma🃏Jestar (@hermajestar.com) April 25, 2025 at 11:36 AM
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On April 28th, 2025, I hosted one last story time on Snapchat before surgery. And, of course, you know who had to tune in and message me about it on Bluesky.
I think I am going to stop there for now. I will focus more on where we are at in the timeline straight away in the next post, since we are approaching the point in the timeline where I go in to have my surgery.